In my last blog, I shared the Danes world of happiness that's "Hygge". I told you soon I'll be sharing a blog on how to be happy. So, is it possible to be happy or live a happy life? Yes, of course, it's possible. It would sound cliched, but "Nothing is impossible" as the word itself means "I'm possible". In today's blog let's focus on possibilities and what needs to be done to change your boring and sad life into a happy life.


Disclaimer*- The tips mentioned below are to be done at your risk. If it fails to give you the desired results then there must be a mistake at your end. Either in the pattern or in the identification of the problem. I can't guarantee happiness at 100%, but definitely in proportions. Perhaps, whenever you read this article and refer back, you at least need 30 mins to completely comprehend the things mentioned. Let your boggled mind go through an immense daze and decide what best suits you and which one you can apply first.





Tip 1: STAY AWAY FROM TOXIC PEOPLE


Now, don't get confused by toxins in the body. I"m talking about real people who are toxic enough to unhinge our minds. You've to identify toxic people around. Are there toxic people around us and close to us? The answer is simply "YES". Then, who are those toxic people? How do they look like?

Where do you find them? This is the easiest question of all. Actually, everywhere. They can be your colleagues, relatives, friends or just random people on calls. Toxic people are those who always crib, talk negative, who are lazy enough to do anything, their favorite past time is backbiting about others. They're the ones who interfere a lot in your life to try and find what's next (update) in your life. Their life is basically sorted as it's all about bothering others, pulling others legs, pinpointing others, always trying to put you in the spot. These people are petrifying as they're also the mood destroyers. Whatever they say or do it changes or affects your mood completely. They try to rule in the best possible mode. Toxic people are negative talkers. Before you could make a decision in your mind, they'll try to devastate the thought that has just been germinated in your mind. There are people who speak out of expression what's good for you and bad, but not always they're hoping the true feeling. Support is something that we expect when we don't know or understand what to do in life. And here they're a complete negative guided missile.

So, if you really want to identify and get rid of such people from your life then you need "Focus" and build "Positive Aura".


For reference: Read the article "Positivity / Positive thinking - What, Why and How?" on my blog.

If you can really build a positive aura around yourself then it'll be easier to identify toxic people. Toxic people can waste your time tremendously by keeping you engaged in their sugar-coated talks or random difficulties in their life. So, next time don't waste your time by giving a priority to such people or simply listening to such people. Watch out!!! Did you just confabulate with a toxic personality? Then there's no chance of being happy. To be happy stay away from toxic people.


Tip 2: STAY CLOSE TO NATURE


Materialistic things will always give you temporary happiness.   Once you know you become happy when you purchase new things, the urge to create the same happiness drives you so much, it increases constantly. Eventually, you end up emptying your pockets and get depressed about the spending's and the money wasted on unnecessary things. Instead, have you thought about the free things that nature provides us? Do you feel happy when around trees, flowers, plants, sea, lake, under the sky or under the moonlight? Do you feel happy when you're close to nature whether it's a weekend trip or vacation? Are you smiling when in the garden just wandering, gazing around, jogging in the park or just experiencing life perfectly close to nature? It could be anything and everything as per your choice.


Feel free to pick one for yourselves to be happy being close to nature.

1. Watering plants every day.

2. Plantation at home/ in your balcony. Decorating and managing it.

3. Visiting a garden or beach fortnight.

4. Going a tree trail trip or trekking in monsoon.

5. Just gazing out of the window to get the feel or vibe of nature.

Pick up one that tops your list, then practice it on a regular basis. Stay close to nature very often to live a happy life.


Tip 3: STOP COMPARING your life WITH OTHERS


Have you thought of this as a time confusing activity that you do most of the time especially when you're idle? This tip is going to be a tough nut to crack. Not everyone would even accept that they often have a habit to compare their lives with others. We actually measure happiness by comparing. Now, that the social media platforms are the biggest booth to blame for, no one can stay away from this perilous virus of comparison.

If you want to find out how terrible it can be, then let's answer a few questions below:


1. How many hours in a day do you spend on social media?

2. Do you get moved after seeing pictures of others visiting an exotic location

 on social media?

3. Do you wish to buy luxurious products or brands after seeing someone else buy the same

 on social media?

4. Do you personally or professionally build a social media handle?

5. Do you learn something on social media? (But is that(learning) only 10% of your time on social media.)

6. Do you only have a social media account because that's a

necessity and it's easier to peep into others life?

7. Do you feel depressed and you babble rubbish after you use too much of social media a particular

 day and can't stop comparing things?

8. Do you wake up and first thing first is checking out social media and finding what's cooking in others life?

9. Do you compare when it comes to clothing or lifestyle with others on social media? Also, you then try to use it as a convincing tool to deal with your parents.

10. Do you feel it's an addiction now and you want to live a life like that of a social media influencer or a person who puts all happy pictures on social media?


If the majority of the answers are "YES" then definitely you're living a "comparing competitors" life

 and continuously trying or showing temporary happiness.

What to do then?

Stop focusing on what others are doing. Everyone will have their own destiny and own set of things to do in life. Comparing will only lead to melancholy and anger. So, these are the major causes of living a sad, damaged or depressed life. If you want to be happy then focus on what to do and also what not to do.


Some simplified tips to be happy-

1. Smile often

2. Do what you love

3. Spend time with your loved ones

4. Pursue a hobby

5. Create your own happiness mantra, follow it and share it with others.

Mine is "Stay Positive, Stay Happy".

Take efforts to create your own happiness.

True fact: Above all, happiness or living a happy is not possible for 365 days and 24/7, but living as many moments as possible should be our goal.


#happyme #shareyourhappymoment #ritzyradhika #readsharedevelop

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Happiness - is a feeling.

In this world, there are varied cultures and traditions. There are 195 countries in the world.

When it comes to happiness, as per the research Denmark has been in the lead on the top ten list of happiest countries in the world.

There may be different words for happiness like

"Lykke" in Danish

"Bonheur" in French

"Gluck" in German.

But the core thought of the word "Happiness" remains as it is.


People are too busy to take a break and think about their state of happiness for a living. Though it's the central part of our living. Human beings need to be happy for their survival. Materialistic happiness is always temporary.

Recently when I was on a break(vacation) I endeavored into this a bit more, to enlighten my knowledge on happiness. I know change is inevitable. I eagerly wanted that change in me. I researched, googled and watched YouTube.

While going through random stuff I came across this YouTube channel

"Aakrti Rana official". I'd seen her videos before but it was long back then. She spoke about minimalism in life and mentioned this book "The Little Book Of Lykke". When I did my research the other book caught my attention. I'll mention the name of the book in some time.

I thought to start from scratch. Had a gut feeling this book would bring happiness in my life and so did it happen. I'm glad I believed in my instincts.


So, I came across this "The little book of hygge". When i received my parcel I was excited to start. This was my hyggelig moment. Don't try to pronounce with English sounds. Won't work. When I ordered I didn't even know the pronunciation but I was ready for the surprise. Hygge pronunciation is "hoo-guh" or "hoo-ga". Yes, it's "hoo-ga" and not "hi-gie". It's hygge danish. Danish is a language spoken in Denmark. What's more titillating is, I had a smile throughout my read. I could experience moving into the city, knowing their tradition, could sense every nook of it. It's so relaxing.



No doubt, the author himself/herself must be a happy person I thought. And guess what? He is a happy person. Probably the happiest with his job profile.

"Meik Wiking" CEO of the

"Happiness Research Institute, Copenhagen has written this book.


To my readers,

This isn't a paid or partnership promotion.

Why I want to mention the source, as it's important to give credibility to the source and thank them.

Here I take this opportunity to thank - Aakriti Rana as because of her video I got the link to this book.

And my special thanks to Meik Wiking to write such a wonderful piece of art.

Since happiness isn't materialistic it has a long way to go. It can stay forever. And forever is the best thing to happen to me when it comes to happiness.

So, during my reading, I could sense that though the culture is different in India. We've been doing things like this.

The book tells you everything about creating "hygge" whether it's about what,how and where to eat, what to wear, being with friends and family or just creating a space for yourself.


I got inspired by it a lot. The pictures in this book caught my attention. I've tried to recreate those captured moments. Hope you'll like it. If you're thinking of happiness then this book is a must. Not only to get a gist but to understand the feeling. Living it alive, living every moment and recreating stuff to surround yourself by the feeling of happiness.


The highlight is emotion, togetherness, comfort, and love. That's it.

I'm going to share 5 secrets to live a happy life in my next blog.


Stay tuned if you're interested to know.

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Self-reflection is a virtue. There's a difference in self-analysis and self-reflection. Reflection is a positive word which doesn't require you to be hard on yourself, whereas analyzing could be punishing yourself for doing wrong.

Self-reflection is about listening to yourself, reflecting back on the journey and having enough food for thought. You need to develop your thoughts on how you did in the past and what did you do. It's reflecting on your needs, your work, your expectations, your goals, your skills, and your behavior. The first step of change is to become aware of your own self.

Now you may ask how to do a self-reflection?

So, here are some tips which I would like to share below and I'm sure it will definitely change you as a person in the near future for better futurity.





1. Decide a day in a month or week depending on when do you want to do a self-reflection. It might vary from person to person. So, first would be to dedicate a day and time to do this. Give a specific date of a month or week and allot a time slot along with the number of minutes you would give to do this particular activity.


2. Rewind everything in your head till the day you’re sitting to do this. If it’s for the first time, I would suggest to make a plan prior and count on a number of days you want to reflect. You need to internalize completely. For e.g: 30 days or 15 days. Relax and play a cassette(thoughts of past days) in your head of what all things happened in these past days. Focus on highlights.


3. Start noting things on paper. Putting things on paper is really an unwavering step to take. Jot down the keywords and try to connect the dots. You can also add comments and pat on your back at this point, take a moment to see how far you’ve come. By praising I mean, can add comments of self-appreciation.

4. Take two color papers of your choice and write your achievements(Positives) on one paper and things you want to change on another. Keeping it in bullet points shall always help oneself. It will become more promising to tick each point as you will move closer to the target planned. Stick this paper in your room where there is visibility of same and you can ruminate back anytime.


5. Self treats for yourself by going for shopping, having a bar of chocolate, visiting a favorite place, talking to your best friend and sharing your feedback or by just feeling groovy about what you just did.


This is a proper step by step guide to self reflect and keep a check on what you think and say, how to improve, what needs to be done before something wrong has happened or rather anyone coming to you and pointing out on a mistake. This will allow you to better yourself, to be always ahead of others and also a method to get some room of your cluttered mind.

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