Self-reflection is a virtue. There's a difference in self-analysis and self-reflection. Reflection is a positive word which doesn't require you to be hard on yourself, whereas analyzing could be punishing yourself for doing wrong.

Self-reflection is about listening to yourself, reflecting back on the journey and having enough food for thought. You need to develop your thoughts on how you did in the past and what did you do. It's reflecting on your needs, your work, your expectations, your goals, your skills, and your behavior. The first step of change is to become aware of your own self.

Now you may ask how to do a self-reflection?

So, here are some tips which I would like to share below and I'm sure it will definitely change you as a person in the near future for better futurity.

1. Decide a day in a month or week depending on when do you want to do a self-reflection. It might vary from person to person. So, first would be to dedicate a day and time to do this. Give a specific date of a month or week and allot a time slot along with the number of minutes you would give to do this particular activity.

2. Rewind everything in your head till the day you’re sitting to do this. If it’s for the first time, I would suggest to make a plan prior and count on a number of days you want to reflect. You need to internalize completely. For e.g: 30 days or 15 days. Relax and play a cassette(thoughts of past days) in your head of what all things happened in these past days. Focus on highlights.

3. Start noting things on paper. Putting things on paper is really an unwavering step to take. Jot down the keywords and try to connect the dots. You can also add comments and pat on your back at this point, take a moment to see how far you’ve come. By praising I mean, can add comments of self-appreciation.

4. Take two color papers of your choice and write your achievements(Positives) on one paper and things you want to change on another. Keeping it in bullet points shall always help oneself. It will become more promising to tick each point as you will move closer to the target planned. Stick this paper in your room where there is visibility of same and you can ruminate back anytime.

5. Self treats for yourself by going for shopping, having a bar of chocolate, visiting a favorite place, talking to your best friend and sharing your feedback or by just feeling groovy about what you just did.

This is a proper step by step guide to self reflect and keep a check on what you think and say, how to improve, what needs to be done before something wrong has happened or rather anyone coming to you and pointing out on a mistake. This will allow you to better yourself, to be always ahead of others and also a method to get some room of your cluttered mind.


They say “ The pen is mightier than the sword ”. Its time to enforce it into practice.

A drop of ink may make a million think.  - Lord Byron

Writing as an activity, is to

- Write down notes.

- Pen down important things.

- Fill form, pass book and etc.

- Just scribble or doodle for kids.

Having said that it’s an activity that happens as a normal process or function of our body. Not that everyone likes it. Writing can be lethargic to many. In today’s techno-geek era, who does have a pen to carry with or rather takes effort to carry one in their pocket? Unless you have a hobby to vouch for or you’re a student.

Shift your focus to the old times, the writing was divine then. There were people who were respected for their handwriting. They held the prestigious tags during college and school time. An apple of drawing teacher's eye. :-) They were the one's looked out the most for any event which needed handwriting experts to showcase their talent on the front board. To cut the story short, there was some essence and truth behind these stories and something to dig in by the handwriting experts.

So let’s take our focus forward on the positive today and inculcate this habit in today’s life.

Writing can be a daily activity. You may write unknowingly without knowing its importance or helplessly just to fill a form, but making it a habit may solve some of your serious problems in life.

Write when…

1. Write when you’re angry instead of wasting your energy in speaking and yelling in rage onto others and later nurturing your guilt.

2. Write when you're happy. Yes! You heard me right. Though we have phones and Polaroid to capture the moment in pictorial format, feelings can convey sentiments. Feelings can be penned down along with the snap by pouring your heart out & carrying that lovely smile forever.

3. Write when you want to achieve something in life.

   #write goals

   #Make a plan

   #To do list


4. An important one - Write when you forget or disremember.

How many of you at a young age complain of lack of memory retention? Then it's time to make your pen work.

It's newfangled to type notes in the phone but practicing with hands will allow you to recollect easily as it's a subconscious activity happening with your brain while you write using your hands.

Apply this key: Choose any 1 of above and make it a practice for better results.

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While reading is an important aspect of learning, listening is also an essential part of learning and development. People often ask me, what’s the difference between hearing and listening?

The answer is simple and it requires your skills.

Listening is an art that requires
Attention over Talent,
Spirit over Ego,
Others over Self.
- Dean Jackson

Hearing is a default function. On the other hand, listening is an art you possess by birth or is acquired through continuous practice. Here there's another glitch, people listen to respond. The moment they listen to the other person they hastily want to reply to them in some way or the other.

Has it happened with you? You listen to someone and immediately want to give a solution, give advise, stop the other person and speak. At times, it is to show the other person that they are wrong or show your macho skills of tackling problems. If you have done it you really need to self analyze if you're a good listener or not. The problem is that the other person does not always demand or needs your answer. Perhaps, they want to be heard or need your attention. They want to share their feelings. They meant to pour their heart out and feel better. They have trust and faith in you, that you won't go and tell it to other people. You should understand that they aren't looking for answers.

So it's time to be an effective listener. You have to hone your listening skills from time to time and generation to generation.

Let’s say,

If your friend is a taciturn person, then show them your qualities of being a sensible and effective listener. Definitely, the sapid conversation will turn into a great gusto.

Below are the variant ways you can practice to develop your listening skills.

1. Watch movies without audio sound. Try to understand what’s happening.

2. If you feel your friend is in need and wants to pour his/her heart to you. Be patient and listen. Don’t listen to respond; listen to understand.

3. Hold on your comments, if people around you are having messy conversations. While you commute from place to place try to be a good listener.

4. You can try to be a sharp observant wherein you only observe and comprehend. Don’t speak.

KEY: Listening can solve your major communication obstacles. Take time to change yourself. Change for a purpose. Listen! Listen! Listen! And when and if needed then you reply or respond.

Let's start our journey to be an effective listener. If you’re a good listener, that’s a benison. Nurture it more.


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